The demise of many relationships starts when one party incessantly finds fault with the other - this usually symptomizes the loss of interest and widening differences in the bond that binds two individuals together. But if you think about it - if this happens to you, do you get a feeling of deja vu?
Many of us have been through a couple relationships. When one is about to end, does the other party argue with you about traits that you have that others in the past have also found fault with? If you’re not on the receiving end, do you always gravitate towards finding fault with your other half (or consecutive halves) for the exact same reasons? We weave in and out of relationships only to find ourselves at exactly the same crossroads, arguing about the exact same things time and time again.
I think the sad but obvious truth is that it takes us a couple of times before we realize that the fault truly lies with us. There might be a certain habit/ quality about us that really just shouldn’t be there. There might be expectations that we have for our better halves that really are unreasonable. We’re used to saying “I promise to change”, “this will be the last time I do this” or “yes, I understand where you’re coming from” but most of the time, we also know these are just empty words. Instead of thinking “this is who I am, just take it or leave it”, I believe there’s a lot of value in taking what our better halves tell us seriously and reflect if there are parts of us that we should be working on - after all, how many people exist in this world that love and care for us unconditionally?
Just some thoughts for a Saturday evening. Hope everyone is having a great one!
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