What makes you proud?
Pride is an interesting thing.
They don't teach this in school, but where that feeling comes from is the serotonin release in your brain.
Serotonin is the feel good neurotransmitter which is released when you have done something to increase your social status.
That's why it feels good to win an award, to be publicly recognized, or to achieve something big.
It bumps your social status and a bump in rank increases your chances of survival.
This why we don't mind when leaders have bigger offices and get paid more.
People with increased social status are treated better by the group because we need our leaders to be taken care of. Without leaders, we are dead.
But there's more... this is the critical part.
Serotonin is the leadership chemical.
Consider what happens when you win an award, a championship, or you graduate from college. Who do you give the credit?
Most people have plenty of tribe members help them get to where they are going. So when people make awards speeches - what do they say?
They thank their Mom & Dad, their coach, their mentor - their team.
And the reason why serotonin is the leadership chemical is that these people who have helped you summit the mountain actually experience the EXACT SAME serotonin release.
Your parents/coach/mentor say, "I'm so proud of you", under their breath when you win.
This is a human survival mechanism.
Over millions of years, we has human beings have evolved to make it to where we are now. And we don't have claws, fangs, we can't fly, we can't run very fast, we have no camouflage - the only survival skills we have is tribal teamwork.
This is why it feels so good to help others, because you helped someone achieve something, you kept them alive, and therefore the tribe has a better collective chance of survival.
Oppositely, you don't feel as great when you buy a Tesla, even though your social status has increased.
There was no reinforcement of a human relationship - you didn't help anyone!!!! Yesterday when I was in the audience for Maria Morukian's TEDx Talk, after months of working together, I cried when she closed.
She absolutely crushed it. She's been an amazing client, and