Had a client who is a successful business owner but couldn't figure out why she kept attracting toxic men.
The men would be nice in the beginning but as soon as things got serious, they either became possessive or they disappeared.
And this affected her self confidence MASSIVELY.
She didn't feel good enough to own a business.
She didn't even feel great making money.
She kept working hard to avoid that empty feeling inside
She was burnt out and tired.
She felt useless because she couldn't hold down a man
She placed so much emphasis on having a loving relationship, as the epitome of success and often felt resentful of her friends relationships.
During the session she went back to a scene where she was asking her Dad to play with her and he kept saying "no I'm busy". She remembered 4 more scenes of her father not giving her attention, shouting at her and making her feel bad for wanting to play.
But she didn't think there is something wrong with her father.
She formed the belief that "my dad doesn't love me". Do you see how we create beliefs, from events that may not seem traumatic?
Her mother was unhappy and her parents had lots of arguments and altercations.
But she didn't think there's something wrong with her parents.
She believed there was something wrong with HER.
That if her parents loved her they would be happy and not fight.
But because they were fighting that must mean, they don't love her (mind blowing right?) As children we are naturally self centered. So we make meanings around events, to reflect our worth.
After the session she was shocked at how she formed those beliefs as a child, because as a grown adult, she knew it wasn't her fault.
But that's it! Your mind holds memories and replays them all the time
And you attract partners/friends/people into your life, because subconsciously you're trying to fix your childhood.
The great thing is she's realised after the session that not being in a relationship didn't mean she's unsuccessful (yessss 🙌🏽🙌🏽) She's let go of the need to be in a relationship and is now focusing on loving herself! Can't wait to see how she blossoms.
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